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Stress. Anxiety. Fears.

Published November 16, 2023 By Bijay Shrestha

“No one good is ever truly good, and no one bad is ever truly bad“.

Loki
Novo Amor – From Gold 

It has been a while.

Few housekeeping.

It’s been over a month I’ve been in Seattle to be alongside with my best friend while he has been going through a kidney transplant surgery.

It was rough.

Things however, are getting better. Nonetheless, everyday is different.

Patience is a virtue we ought to worship.

But, this is not an excuse for me for not being able to keep up with my weekly schedule of Musicpervs.

I needed a break!

Today, I wanted to talk about whether it’s good to have stress. Anxiety.

Fears and the likes.

Unwrapping.

My father use to say, “Don’t stress out about things.”

I’d rather contest, “We’d have to have as much appetite to stomach as many life’s challenges as we can.”

For, Good stress keeps us in our toes.

Healthy anxiety is good for growth.

Fear not necessarily is an Agent Smith.

Now, having said that, it is also imperative that stress, anxiety, fears and the likes also have to be thoughtfully, mindfully, and carefully filtered among the two evident silos..

One helpful. The other harmful.
One has prospect. The other punishes.

One is a prayer. The other willful blindness.

One is a must. The other is a choice.

Namaste.

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Stories

Published September 21, 2023 By 8ijay.shrestha

There is no good or bad without us, there is only perception. There is the event itself and the story we tell ourselves about what it means.

Ryan Holiday
Cigarettes – David Kushner

We all love stories. Don’t we?

In the like pretext, rarely have I met a person who doesn’t like movies.

For, movies move many stories and we can’t help but be captivated by their awe.

Personally, I believe stories have immense power.

We all ought to ‘authentically’ put one. Take it as one of our moral obligation.

Not only the highlight reality over social media. Not only the sugar. Not only the cream.

But both good and bad.

I was talking to my girlfriend about it as she’d ask why do you always have this strong urge to tickle the terrible days of the past; emphasize on the contrast you have with the present?

I said, i only tell stories. It’s upto the readers how they’d want to look at it.

I don’t have grip over their narrative and rightly so.

We risk nakedness.

We risk mis-interpretations.

We risk judgements.

Namaste.

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Coqueta SF

Published September 14, 2023 By Bijay Shrestha

Philosophy gives a way to life. Don’t let it come in a way of trying to live a gleeful life. Balance.

~ Musicpervs
Alex Yurkiv, Thelma Costolo – Take Me to the River (I Will Swim) 

Couple housekeeping: Paid off my student debt. New plans on the way. Dinner date after a while.

Over dinner date this evening, I and my girlfriend talked about trodding the path of lifeline with the end in mind.

I went in to explain her that either of us is going to outlive the other — only if we were not to get into an unfortunate, unimaginable accident together. Touchwood.

I also confronted her that secretly, I do enjoy her getting pissed off at me, for at least she has me who she can trust to vent off at, to get angry at and know things will fall back to normal when things have cooled off.

I told her we ought to learn to not take the other for granted and cherish our partnership; our moments of togetherness as well as the times we’d separate with kindness, care and utter delicacy.

I told her that I want to see and experience world, different culture, different stories. She shared all she wants in life is not to be bothered by anybody and live rest of her lives without pressure.

I also went on to tell her, that fundamentally all we’d ever crave for is one clean, full, deep breathe of fresh air, a food on the table, and few we love around us. I told her I don’t really see the point of being angry, being dissatisfied, even chasing things. Exception: Trying to be better than yesterday is a must.

In the due course, we clinked on our choices of red wine. Ate the spanish dishes we had never tried before. Bitched and buried one or two on our colorful, intense conversation. Most definitely savored the San Franciscan, Spanish culinary experience at ‘Coqueta SF’ to the fullest. Rode the Bay Wheel together, laughed a lot, lived a little more.

Namaste.

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Don’t. Miss. Anything.

Published September 7, 2023 By Bijay Shrestha

Life is what happens when you’re busy making other plans.

—John Lennon.
Mumford & Sons – Ghosts That We Knew

Jim Rohn in one of his famous speech went onto say,”

Something my parent taught me that they practiced all their life. Now I practice.

Don’t Miss Anything.

Don’t miss the game.

Don’t miss the concert.

Don’t miss the performance

Don’t miss the show

Don’t miss the conversation.

Don’t miss the sermon.

Don’t miss the class.

Don’t. Miss. Anything.

Go.

Look.

See.

Learn.

Try.

Taste.

(With gesture of hands, suggests)

Let that Flavor of life be part of your lifestyle.

Elton John sings, “She lived her life like a candle in the wind, never knowing who to cling to, when the rain set in.”

What if you missed that?

See, that wouldn’t be good.

George Harrison used to sing before he died, “If not for you, the winter would hold no spring. Couldn’t hear a robin sing. I just wouldn’t have a clue if not for you.”

Again with meaningful gesture of hands re-iterates,

Go Taste.

Go Listen.

Go Enjoy.”

See, one thing is for certain.

Nobody is ever, never prepared for what is going to happen in our lives far into the future.

But the only guarantee that renders a glimmer of healthy hope, that this one time opportunity ‘life’ would eventually fold in a good enough episode is to actually plant, nurture and water the seeds of wisdom as it progresses.

Go explore Jim. He was the harbinger of a laying out his unique template for a practical, pragmatic and most importantly a good-enough life.

Namaste.

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Conversation

Published August 31, 2023 By 8ijay.shrestha

Important conversations. Important people.

~Musicpervs
Cladestina – Emma Peters

Conversation of once being dirt poor.

Conversation of how life changed … is changing.

Not rich.

Enriching.

Namaste.

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What’s happiness to you?

Published August 24, 2023 By Bijay Shrestha

Happiness is subjective.

Musipervs
TEYA DORA – DŽANUM

Having choices. To be able to chose how I want to live my life is happiness to me.

Having good sleep. To be able to go to bed, wind down and sink in peacefully is happiness to me.

Having life partner. To be able to share joy and sorrow, delights and predicaments with my life partner side-to-side is happiness to me.

Having good food.

Good music.

Good friends.

Good book.

Good internet.

Roof over the head.

Having my health is happiness to me.

Having family is happiness to me.

Having goal and the appetite for it is happiness to me.

What’s happiness to you?

p.s. Happy Birthday Sabuji!

Namaste.

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Infodemic

Published August 17, 2023 By 8ijay.shrestha

“Almost everything we experience is a zero-sum game. Just, don’t take the wrong medicine for the wrong disease.”

~ Musicpervs
Tu Chodiyon Na  – Ronit Vinta

There is so much noise out there.

Almost everything we see and hear are a zero-sum game.

Almost everything cancels out each other.

So, is this bad?

Does this mean, we ought to just eat whatever we get our hands on, and learn from exclusive experience, and learn as truth unveils itself eventually?

Actually not.

The actualization and realization of this one fundamental facet of this infodemic era is in-and-itself a super power.

It calls for truth.

It call for not believing or giving in to things you’re exposed to, or influenced at will.

It calls for original thinking.

It calls for genuine curiosity and getting to the process of seeking truths and grooming and feasting over facts, facts and facts, and developing your ideas over those unfiltered, hardcore, for-real information.

Namaste.

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Here be dragons

Published August 11, 2023 By Bijay Shrestha

“You need find your dragons, look them in the eye, and destroy them.”

Julien Smith (The Flinch)
wrabel – flicker

Magnus Carlsen won today’s Round 4 Game 2 Classical chess must-win match with Vincent Keymer on FIDE World Cup AzerBaijan 2023.

He lost to the 18 year old phenom yesterday and had to produce a win out of thin year in this highly stressful game of mind.

This game is such a grind tweets @kyle_is_lurnking.

Magnus.

He slayed his dragon, and for sure learned a bizzilion dollar lesson of ‘situational awareness and patience’ but most importantly he had a taste of overcoming the flinch on and off the chess board right on-time before the crucial matches of world cup is due to begin.

Let’s see what happens on tomorrow’s tie breaker game.

Without an exception, we also have and will most certainly come face-to-face with many dragons in our lives

  • given a life’s purposeful,
  • given a life’s not a garbage,
  • given we’re alive in our mind & heart

and, when we did and would eventually confront one in coming future — deal with the flinch at face value and give our all to not turn the other way around.

To understand the stories of flinches, I highly recommend ‘The Flinch – By Julien Smith’.

And, as stated at Page 38, paragraph 2 in the book: Old explorers even had a phrase for it: “Here be dragons.”

Thank me later.

The idea is when you see the dragon (metaphor);

Not have fear of defeat.

Not have fear of getting lost.

Not be afraid of pain, predicaments.

Persevere!

Not for anybody, anything. But for you.

Namaste.

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San Francisco. Solution.

Published August 3, 2023 By Bijay Shrestha

Impermanence is permanent.

Musicpervs
Vismay Patel – Dariya

It’s been couple of weeks I’ve been out of instagram, facebook grid. I don’t know if I will ever be back. Although my X (formerly Twitter) usages has gone up.

Since Elon Musk took over X, residing in San Francisco and closely following his works, intentions and personality as a whole has personally made my life more purposeful.

San Francisco is not an easy city to live in. It is the 8th most expensive city in the world according to World Economic Forum but not without the grave problem.

In all sincerity, every-time I walk around the financial district, especially around the market street in the course of going towards my fitness center, or every-time I take a walk to the Ferry Building through Embarcadero, through Montgomery Street, every-time I take an Uber to go visit my best friend at El Cerrito; being able to afford all this, being able to have all of these experiences utterly enriches my heart. Not that this is the first time I’m saying I feel grateful to be living at this phase of my life. Yes, I’m grateful.

The center of it all, without-a-doubt is the ‘Solution’.

Sometimes I wonder, only had I not h.e.r in my life, how all of these was even a possibility.

Sometimes I wonder what if I lose her, that she leaves me on my own to be.

Sometimes I wonder what if I have to leave this city that I’ve fallen heads over heels with.

Namaste.

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