If who you are is what you have and what you have is lost then who are you?
Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
BEAR’S DEN – ABOVE THE CLOUDS OF POMPEII
10:14PM.
In bed.
Alone.
Feels like vomiting.
I am not happy.
I don’t feel good.
Identity crisis?
I don’t know.
It feels like I’m being stabbed by a blunt force, not exactly sure what it really is.
It feels like someone has deliberately put a concrete on top my chest and I can’t get it off no matter how much I try, no matter which side of the bed i toss into.
I tried deep breath in hope of respite.
I tried talking myself into eating self motivation, high calorie intellectual diet.
I am so so so … not happy!
I just want to scream it out loud.
That’s all.
Consider these empty, meaningless, tasteless, pitiful and silent word-cry — me shouting on top of my close-to-collapse-dying-lungs.
I want to get it out of my system.
I need some sort of echo chamber to contain these thoughts into.
To cleanse myself.
To walk away.
In hope that eventually — everything will be just okay.
The secret to lasting love lies in gratitude. When you have someone special, resist the urge to look elsewhere. The grass isn’t greener—it’s simply a different shade of the same.
Cherish what you have, for love isn’t about flawless perfection. It’s about choosing each other, through the chaos, through the challenges, time and time again.
In a world where quitting comes so easily, a single argument or a rough day often leads to goodbye. But the most beautiful love stories are born from resilience.
They are written by those who stay when it’s tough, who confront their doubts, and who remind themselves daily how fortunate they are to share their lives.
Love isn’t built on ease; it flourishes through commitment. Be the story that endures—not because it was effortless, but because you held on to the magic that made it worth it.
“Everyone is a bit scared.” Said the horse. “But we are less scared together.”
Charlie Mackey
Do Patti: Raanjhan
Having attended so many funerals from early age, I’ve seen many cold, lifeless bodies. Perhaps because of these experiences, I’m also of an opinion that we all need that one companion in our life — who’d stand by us. With us.
No question asked.
Effortlessly.
Willingly, and
Heartfully!
‘One’, … one is sufficient.
And, to be able to earn that one friend,
that one utterly special soul
is — in my honest opinion a matter of pure luck.
It is also an underestimated fortune.
At times also easily overlooked, easily missed.
This friend could be your parents,
your siblings,
your partner,
your best friend,
your son and daughter,
your grand parents,
your cousins, nephews, or someone once a complete stranger.
Do yourself a favor, let this person know that she or he is your person!
Learn to enjoy and appreciate the process… Because you are going to spend far more time on the actual journey than with those all too brief moments of triumph at the end.
Coach Christopher Sommer
Anuv Jain – JO TUM MERE HO
Tim ferris (who has been one of my many mentors since early 2015) writes:
An email from Coach Sommer I revisit often:
Hi Tim,
Patience. Far too soon to expect strength improvements. Strength improvements [for a movement like this] take a minimum of 6 weeks. Any perceived improvements prior to that are simply the result of improved synaptic facilitation. In plain English, the central nervous system simply became more efficient at that particular movement with practice. This is, however, not to be confused with actual strength gains.
Dealing with the temporary frustration of not making progress is an integral part of the path towards excellence. In fact, it is essential and something that every single elite athlete has had to learn to deal with. If the pursuit of excellence was easy, everyone would do it.
In fact, this impatience in dealing with frustration is the primary reason that most people fail to achieve their goals. Unreasonable expectations timewise, resulting in unnecessary frustration, due to a perceived feeling of failure. Achieving the extraordinary is not a linear process.
The secret is to show up, do the work, and go home.
A blue collar work ethic married to indomitable will. It is literally that simple. Nothing interferes. Nothing can sway you from your purpose. Once the decision is made, simply refuse to budge. Refuse to compromise.
And accept that quality long-term results require quality long-term focus. No emotion. No drama. No beating yourself up over small bumps in the road. Learn to enjoy and appreciate the process. This is especially important because you are going to spend far more time on the actual journey than with those all too brief moments of triumph at the end.
Certainly celebrate the moments of triumph when they occur. More importantly, learn from defeats when they happen. In fact, if you are not encountering defeat on a fairly regular basis, you are not trying hard enough. And absolutely refuse to accept less than your best.
Throw out a timeline. It will take what it takes.
If the commitment is to a long-term goal and not to a series of smaller intermediate goals, then only one decision needs to be made and adhered to. Clear, simple, straightforward. Much easier to maintain than having to make small decision after small decision to stay the course when dealing with each step along the way. This provides far too many opportunities to inadvertently drift from your chosen goal.
The single decision is one of the most powerful tools in the toolbox.
