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Begin with the end in mind

Published May 15, 2025 By Bijay Shrestha

With her beside. Watch her, Until the last breath.
~ Author

^{Billie Eilish – BIRDS OF A FEATHER}

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens by Sean Covey was the first ever non-fiction book I had an opportunity to get my hands on — that too very much accidentally. That’s a separate story for some other time.

One of the line in the book read loud, … all in bold.

“BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND”

It’s been over a decade since I’ve touched that book and quite frankly I have forgotten all the other six habits that Sean put in that wonderful masterpiece with only an exception of this six words maxim.

For the most part i haven’t forgotten it is because the line was always on the back of my mind in all crucial decisions I’ve made. It is a filter all of these decisions pass through.

In the like pretext, when Ryan Holiday introduced me to ‘Memento Mori’ that translated to ‘remember that you must die’ from one of his essays; I tell you — I’ve always navigated my life deliberately, diligently and delicately around these two sharp lines I hold dear.

The inevitable end of borrowed time and the value of beginning anything keeping a sublime end in mind — must be the path, must be the goal.

Must be j.u.s.t.

Begin with the end in mind

I’ve always done things this way.

I always will.

And, I see how I want to see my life drop the curtain off :

With ‘her’ beside.

Watch her,

Until the last breath.

Slips.

Namaste.

Good things take time

Published April 17, 2025 By 8ijay.shrestha

The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way.
The Obstacle Is the Way – Ryan Holiday

^{Laxmi Thapa – Topic}

1293 days since I landed in JFK on October 03, 2021.

Took me 3 years, 6 months, 15 days.

42 months, 15 days to be able to step into the new phase of my life here in the US.

Today was a very special day.

Good things take time.

But your goal is important.

Perseverance is non-negotiable.

Responsibility,.. more responsibilities is called for

Obstacle is the way.

Setbacks would be an integral part of living.

Bits of rain, bits of sunshine are blessings.

Namaste.

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3 months

Published April 10, 2025 By Bijay Shrestha

Life’s good does not necessarily imply everything has to be good. Life’s good.
~ Author

^{Vintage Intro XX – Saint Perrier – Topic}

Almost 3 Months without a single word on Musicpervs.

3 months of abrupt sabbatical.

3 months of battle over battle over battle.

Months of exhaustion.

Months of doubts.

Months of laziness.

Months of palpable shame one Thursday after another.

But here we are, .. here I am as I pick up these sticks and bones.

We had to put down our only pet ‘Sanu’ as she was visibly and painfully seeking help and relief from her failing body.

Everyone in my family sobbed as we bid bye to her beautiful being.

One of the best decisions we believe we made was not to leave Sanu back in Nepal when my parents moved from Nepal to the US. She was a family.

And, for all the time she was with us, we tried giving her the best of life we could. In return, she gave us everything she has. She rightfully so considered us her family.

I got married to my long time girlfriend on February 14, 2025.🎉. From seeing her for the first time beside that coffee vending machine at her first day in the job in the Year 2019, she is by far the best thing that has happened to me. Without exceptions!

Moved to Charlotte as I roll with the punches. One day at a time.

Life’s good.

Namaste.

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Surfer Mentality

Published January 16, 2025 By 8ijay.shrestha

You can’t catch any waves siting on the shore. Always put yourself in the water.
Sahil Bloom

Laage Re Nain – Ayesha Omar, Rohali Hyatt

I was having a conversation with my Twin brother regarding the need of urgency in our lives.

I have been Pro-Urgent for a very long time.

I’m of an opinion that

Urgency invites change, demands commitment and hardship

Change invites Opportunities, demands consistency and discipline.

Opportunities invites responsibilities, makes like meaningful, purposeful and fruitful.

Wisdom demands what Bloom calls a ‘Surfer Mentality’

Meaning.

When a surfer rides a wave, they savor the present, knowing all too well that it won’t last forever. They fully immerse themselves in the experience, embracing each moment with the wisdom that more waves will follow.

Succinctly put.

Be mindful.

Of your decisions.

Of your indecisions.

Namaste.

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Charlotte – please be kind

Published January 9, 2025 By Bijay Shrestha

Fall in love with places. Fall in love with the situations. Inspect. Accept. Adapt.
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^{My Space is Overgrown – Aayushi}

I will be moving to Charlotte, North Carolina on January 11, 2025.

Having been living a nomadic life since I stepped in the US on October of 2021; The two suitcase life has been delightfully rewarding.

Who else than Colin Wright can explain this way of living.

Not having a stable, fixed household has never been a cause for concern.

I don’t have regrets a bit.

I take it as an opportunity to stretch and grow further.

I take it as an experience of the privileged,.. for the privileged — if things are full-well under control and fore-planned.

I like it.

Most certainly, it will be a wild, exciting, exhilarating and exhausting couple of days. Probably a week or two.

To settle down.

To acclimatize to new normal.

Charlotte — please be kind, gentle and beautiful!

Namaste.

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Not happy

Published January 2, 2025 By Bijay Shrestha

If who you are is what you have and what you have is lost then who are you?
Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

^{BEAR’S DEN – ABOVE THE CLOUDS OF POMPEII}

10:14PM.

In bed.

Alone.

Feels like vomiting.

I am not happy.

I don’t feel good.

Identity crisis?

I don’t know.

It feels like I’m being stabbed by a blunt force, not exactly sure what it really is.

It feels like someone has deliberately put a concrete on top my chest and I can’t get it off no matter how much I try, no matter which side of the bed i toss into.

I tried deep breath in hope of respite.

I tried talking myself into eating self motivation, high calorie intellectual diet.

I am so so so … not happy!

I just want to scream it out loud.

That’s all.

Consider these empty, meaningless, tasteless, pitiful and silent word-cry — me shouting on top of my close-to-collapse-dying-lungs.

I want to get it out of my system.

I need some sort of echo chamber to contain these thoughts into.

To cleanse myself.

To walk away.

In hope that eventually — everything will be just okay.

Everything does.

I’m okay, I feel okay.

Time to close the chapter for today.

Namaste.

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Dream

Published December 26, 2024 By Bijay Shrestha

Sometimes I wonder, why can’t dream be the purpose, … a journey?
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^{500 miles – Joan Baez}

It would be a dream come true.

An ordinary random day I get to say,” We have been happily married for more than 45 years…”

That’s the dream!

Namaste.

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Choose love

Published December 20, 2024 By Bijay Shrestha

Choose love, everyday, every-time!

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^{EKDEV LIMBU – Jhim Jhimaune Aankha}

Care to read and you will relate.

Care not, you will relate.

… about choosing love over the alternative!

The secret to lasting love lies in gratitude.
When you have someone special, resist the urge to look elsewhere.
The grass isn’t greener—it’s simply a different shade of the same.

Cherish what you have, for love isn’t about flawless perfection.
It’s about choosing each other, through the chaos,
through the challenges, time and time again.

In a world where quitting comes so easily,
a single argument or a rough day often leads to goodbye.
But the most beautiful love stories are born from resilience.

They are written by those who stay when it’s tough,
who confront their doubts,
and who remind themselves daily how fortunate they are to share their lives.

Love isn’t built on ease; it flourishes through commitment.
Be the story that endures—not because it was effortless,
but because you held on to the magic that made it worth it.

Choose love, always.

Namaste.

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We only die once

Published December 12, 2024 By 8ijay.shrestha

Begin at once to live, and count each separate day as a separate life.
Seneca

^{Ek Din Aap Yoon Humko Mil Jayenge}

The entire while from when I was born, life has been wild and surprising,

Curve balls after curve balls.

Scaring. Scarring. Hustling, Humbling.

Chaotic. At times orderly for sure.

Changing. Demanding.

But. .. .but

One thing has been ‘a’ constant.

Yes, it was painful. It was petrifying.

It was confusing. Damning.

Regardless, no remorse.

No regrets.

Wouldn’t change anything.

About life, snoppy nails it best.

So.

Take this mixed bag. Do what you can do, when you can do, where you can do, how you can do. Focus on the now!

The Little Things.

Namaste.

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Happy Solution Day

Published December 5, 2024 By 8ijay.shrestha

Begin at once to live, and count each separate day as a separate life.
Seneca, Letters to Lucilius

^{Prateek Kuhad – I’m Someone New}

Back in 2019, I saved her phone number under the name “Solution” from the very first time I got it.

Beside anonymity’s sake I chose ‘Solution’ in particular, because she literally use to have solution for everything.

She is reliable!

From the very first weeks of knowing her, I could tell that astuteness is a fundamental part of her nature.

From how I’ve see her, Problem Solving has most-definitely been her forte.

For this same reason, the name ‘Solution’ has stayed on my phone for 5 years now.

Her texts,.. the calls still rings with ‘Solution’.

It won’t change.

Reminds me of the rich story we share together.

Reminds me of a trustworthy partner.

Reminds me of our humble beginning.

Reminds me of who I’m warmly married to (figuratively).

Her flaws. Her virtues.

Her fury. Her tranquility.

Happy Solution Day!

Namaste.

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