“The questions you ask yourself will largely determine the answers you get.
Why am I not successful?” You’ll get answers that berate you.
How can I succeed here?” You’ll get answers that push you.
Be deliberate in the questions you ask yourself.”
Julie Gurner
Let Her Go x Husn (Gravero Mashup) | Anuv Jain
Matter of fact, looking at all the people I have seen succeed in their life; And carefully weighing on things that work/ed for them — I truly believe the sincerity, seriousness and substances of questions make up a common denominator among them.
Questions we ask today, will shape things we do this moment.
Questions become our path. Questions lead us to the path.
“Putting things off is the biggest waste of life: it snatches away each day as it comes, and denies us the present by promising the future. The greatest obstacle to living is expectancy, which hangs upon tomorrow, and loses today. You are arranging what lies in Fortune’s control, and abandoning what lies in yours. What are you looking at? To what goal are you straining? The whole future lies in uncertainty: live immediately.”
Seneca
Iron & Wine – Flightless Bird, American Mouth
An uncle died this week. Purshottam Shrestha.
Took me back to one of those dark places. Again.
A place where tomorrow is not promised.
A place where the best you can say; a place where the wise thing to acknowledge is that no matter how brutal the day was — you still had the day regardless.
With the news, came the wave of ‘Urgencies’ rushing to the shore.
There’s no better time than today.
There’s no best day than this day.
Pritchett wisely put it,
Make your move before you’re ready!
I tell you where big dreams go to die.
They go to the Planning Place.
Getting ready place.
Ahh..
Preparing myself .. and it’s the biggest con job we work on ourselves.
There are so many bones in that Graveyard where people … It’s always something; There’s always going to be set of reasons to wait.
When you’re going to take the risk?
I hope my drive and aspirations are stagnant, static, saturated and still.
I hope I keep believing that life barely is a synchronous series of episodes and events but rather an open, white, empty canvas with welcoming un-expected brush stokes from no one but ourselves. Looking for ways to write it’s own meaning albeit not necessarily only the meaningful ones necessarily. But ephemerally. But, writing it anyway.
I hope I get tired but complain less.
I hope the man in me keeps believing, keeps saying, keeps encouraging me to live the best version of my life!
Knowledge is knowing what to say. Wisdom is knowing when to say it.
Anonymous
Prateek Kuhad – Mulaqat
The Asch Experiment, in order words A group conformity Experiment.
In this experiment, a volunteer is told that he/she is taking part in a visual perception test. What s/he doesn’t know is that the other participants are actors and s/he is the only person taking part in the real test, which is about Group Conformity.
In the due course of the test, the volunteer along with other actors are shown series of line lengths on cardboards. Each cardboards has one right answer among many other options. In each round, the actors deliberately give wrong answers unanimously until eventually the subject doubts his/her own perception of things and rather choose to go along with the group perception instead.
This experiment has been repeated so many times, and the results have been consistent again and again, and again.
In a nutshell, we, by nature tend to bend towards crowd conformity despite the reality/ truth of the matter.
Now that you’ve read thus far, I hope this wealth of knowledge and wisdom sets in your deep conscience for anytime to grab whenever you find yourself rhyming with mob’d dead brain. I hope this small article aspire you to grow to be an original thinker.
“No one good is ever truly good, and no one bad is ever truly bad“.
Loki
Novo Amor – From Gold
It has been a while.
Few housekeeping.
It’s been over a month I’ve been in Seattle to be alongside with my best friend while he has been going through a kidney transplant surgery.
It was rough.
Things however, are getting better. Nonetheless, everyday is different.
Patience is a virtue we ought to worship.
But, this is not an excuse for me for not being able to keep up with my weekly schedule of Musicpervs.
I needed a break!
Today, I wanted to talk about whether it’s good to have stress. Anxiety.
Fears and the likes.
Unwrapping.
My father use to say, “Don’t stress out about things.”
I’d rather contest, “We’d have to have as much appetite to stomach as many life’s challenges as we can.”
For, Good stress keeps us in our toes.
Healthy anxiety is good for growth.
Fear not necessarily is an Agent Smith.
Now, having said that, it is also imperative that stress, anxiety, fears and the likes also have to be thoughtfully, mindfully, and carefully filtered among the two evident silos..
One helpful. The other harmful. One has prospect. The other punishes.
There is no good or bad without us, there is only perception. There is the event itself and the story we tell ourselves about what it means.
Ryan Holiday
Cigarettes – David Kushner
We all love stories. Don’t we?
In the like pretext, rarely have I met a person who doesn’t like movies.
For, movies move many stories and we can’t help but be captivated by their awe.
Personally, I believe stories have immense power.
We all ought to ‘authentically’ put one. Take it as one of our moral obligation.
Not only the highlight reality over social media. Not only the sugar. Not only the cream.
But both good and bad.
I was talking to my girlfriend about it as she’d ask why do you always have this strong urge to tickle the terrible days of the past; emphasize on the contrast you have with the present?
I said, i only tell stories. It’s upto the readers how they’d want to look at it.
I don’t have grip over their narrative and rightly so.
Philosophy gives a way to life. Don’t let it come in a way of trying to live a gleeful life. Balance.
~ Musicpervs
Alex Yurkiv, Thelma Costolo – Take Me to the River (I Will Swim)
Couple housekeeping: Paid off my student debt. New plans on the way. Dinner date after a while.
Over dinner date this evening, I and my girlfriend talked about trodding the path of lifeline with the end in mind.
I went in to explain her that either of us is going to outlive the other — only if we were not to get into an unfortunate, unimaginable accident together. Touchwood.
I also confronted her that secretly, I do enjoy her getting pissed off at me, for at least she has me who she can trust to vent off at, to get angry at and know things will fall back to normal when things have cooled off.
I told her we ought to learn to not take the other for granted and cherish our partnership; our moments of togetherness as well as the times we’d separate with kindness, care and utter delicacy.
I told her that I want to see and experience world, different culture, different stories. She shared all she wants in life is not to be bothered by anybody and live rest of her lives without pressure.
I also went on to tell her, that fundamentally all we’d ever crave for is one clean, full, deep breathe of fresh air, a food on the table, and few we love around us. I told her I don’t really see the point of being angry, being dissatisfied, even chasing things. Exception: Trying to be better than yesterday is a must.
In the due course, we clinked on our choices of red wine. Ate the spanish dishes we had never tried before. Bitched and buried one or two on our colorful, intense conversation. Most definitely savored the San Franciscan, Spanish culinary experience at ‘Coqueta SF’ to the fullest. Rode the Bay Wheel together, laughed a lot, lived a little more.
Life is what happens when you’re busy making other plans.
—John Lennon.
Mumford & Sons – Ghosts That We Knew
Jim Rohn in one of his famous speech went onto say,”
Something my parent taught me that they practiced all their life. Now I practice.
Don’t Miss Anything.
Don’t miss the game.
Don’t miss the concert.
Don’t miss the performance
Don’t miss the show
Don’t miss the conversation.
Don’t miss the sermon.
Don’t miss the class.
Don’t. Miss. Anything.
Go.
Look.
See.
Learn.
Try.
Taste.
(With gesture of hands, suggests)
Let that Flavor of life be part of your lifestyle.
Elton John sings, “She lived her life like a candle in the wind, never knowing who to cling to, when the rain set in.”
What if you missed that?
See, that wouldn’t be good.
George Harrison used to sing before he died, “If not for you, the winter would hold no spring. Couldn’t hear a robin sing. I just wouldn’t have a clue if not for you.”
Again with meaningful gesture of hands re-iterates,
Go Taste.
Go Listen.
Go Enjoy.”
See, one thing is for certain.
Nobody is ever, never prepared for what is going to happen in our lives far into the future.
But the only guarantee that renders a glimmer of healthy hope, that this one time opportunity ‘life’ would eventually fold in a good enough episode is to actually plant, nurture and water the seeds of wisdom as it progresses.
Go explore Jim. He was the harbinger of a laying out his unique template for a practical, pragmatic and most importantly a good-enough life.
