Just remember, you are lucky to just.be.alive. Remember more often.

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I have learned this very early when I was at the dawn of my teenage year.

We ought to have strong, ferocious, fearless appetite to chew, eat, and digest stress(es).

Jordan B. Peterson succinctly, and precisely put it, “Life is Suffering.”

It’s pointless to be whining about one.

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Sweet reminiscent.

There have been plenty of anxiety-full instances in my life.

I’ve trembled in front of people — for real, not metaphorically. Shamefully.

I’ve had many, many, so many sleepless nights. They were painful.

I’ve had meltdown(s). I’ve cried alone countless times, because I’m clueless, directionless, afraid.

I’ve had episodes after episodes of terrible headaches, burning eyes, weary, soulless, ill-stricken body. Long days. Cold nights.

I swallowed them all.

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This past week, I was talking to my twin brother about the same.

One of the greatest strength or call it virtue of a man and a woman is his/her capacity to wither storm, to be strong when situation demands one, to deliberately seek for discomfort, to invite stress(es) of utmost utility.

In short. Seek for right kind of stress. And, it is our ultimate responsibility to take care of ourselves, to be kind to ourselves, to rest, re-energize, re-walk as we navigate this treacherous peaks and valleys of life.

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Lastly.

Can’t run from stress.

Can dissolve stress.

She will show up the next morning soon as you open your eyes.

She will demand a welcoming kiss, a warm embrace.

See,.. she’s not really a bad one to be around.

Balance is tricky so is challenging.

For, she grows in you.

You grow with her.

Namaste.

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“The greatest illusion,” said the mole, “is that life should be perfect.” 

Charlie Mackesy

I had read the ebook version of the book The Boy, the Mole, the Fox – and the Horse by Charlie Mackesy on early 2020 — from start, all the way to the end in just about an hour or so. But then I wanted to buy this book on hardcover, and have it beside my collections of bedside books.

Finally Solution gifted me the book this week as we were talking about it on one of shopping trip to ‘Target’ in Richmond.

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I bet, you will not regret spending your money on this world class but equally unflatteringly-simple, and digestible piece of work very much handy for our day to day contemplation of life in general. You can also find the video adaptation of this book on apple tv. Check on youtube for trailer by clicking here.

Skinning more on Charlie’s work — whenever I personally feel or tend to feel overwhelmed; I know i can always go through any random pages in the book and ultimately find peace with be it my on-hand or out-of-hand circumstances the way they unfolded. For, I for sure know this book is no less than a magical paracetamol for the feverish ones.

So, go my friend.

Enjoy the unwavering, fruitilicious, true-as-gravity wisdom with a cup of whatever you like –tea, coffee, soda, water.

Namaste.

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“Happy is the man who can make a living by his hobby”

― George Bernard Shaw, Pygmalion

I enjoy cooking. I didn’t know until I’ve been cooking more and more lately.

It’s been months.

Personally, It really doesn’t matter how food on the table ends up being but I deeply find the process of making — meditative. Chopping of vegetables. Watching the cook tutorial video over and over. Making sure the right amount of water, the spices and condiments goes in. Making sure I stir them frequently. The exhaustion of legs as a result of standing for a long time. Skin burns because of the oil and the hot utensils on fire. Food presentation. Cleaning the kitchen over and over. Doing the dishes and putting them where they belong and finally taking a satisfying well-deserved rest.

Cooking in a way has become my friend, a getaway place to dissolve my stress. An alternative to un-work my worked-up brain.

Never have I ever cooked to this extent ever.

Never have I ever thought I’d cook … i can almost anything.

I don’t know maybe this is a one new hobby I’m developing.

I don’t know maybe I enjoy cooking because in a way it is saving me one day at a time.

Namaste.

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“The best climber in the world is the one who’s having the most fun.”

Alex Lowe – Mountaineer

I bet people

who’re fulfilled,

more satisfied,

who feel complete,

who’re for the most part cheerful, kind, gleeful,

people w.h.o.e.v.e.r gives you the vibe of utter positivity and genuine, heartfelt warmth,..

— more than anything, joy is at work.

Like they say, “Happiness is abstract.”

I mean what does it even mean when you say someone’s happier?

Because, happiness’s a lot of things. For riches, more freedom can be happiness. For dirt poors, a food on the table can be a happiness.

However, Joy’s objective. Joy is the blood to the heart.

Namaste.

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You cannot do kindness too soon, for you never know how soon
it will be too late.

RALPH WALDO EMERSON

Today’s post is specially dedicated to my grandmother (Emé)

Emé use to say, “Be nice, son! It gives you a lot many things for action that simple because the alternative is unbearably painful. You sometimes even would wish of dying!”

The day of that conversation as she was nurturing me as she was crying the same time is still as fresh in my mind today. It shall only die with me.

On the same note, a couple in their early 100’s who’ve been married for 82 years confronted; the pedestal of their larger-than-life-marriage has been fundamentally attributed to being nicer and respectful to each other.

Human by birth has been a social creature.

Today, I would disagree when someone says, “Oh! I can live on my own. Alone. I’ll be fine.” Well, there were times when I use to utter the same words. However, later only I’d know that it’s merely the ego speaking; It’s at core a low resolution, loosely constructed mindset — proxy-fueling our journey to fulfilling life’s finish line .

Fact is, human need human. Although, not too many!

Which is why, specially for a couple to remain a couple — be nice!

For a son to be a son — be nice.

For a friend to be a friend — be nice.

For a sister to be a sister or brother to be a brother — be nice.

For a human to be a human indeed. Be nice.

For I can’t stress this enough, being nice is so damn much under-valued and easily thrown out of one’s daily life experience.

Namaste.

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I’m potato. A good one. Maybe not. Maybe yes. Possibly both. ~ author

Few House keeping.

It’s been a week of having unburdened myself from the clutches and craziness of social media apparatus by the name of ‘instagram’ — this lucious bad boy, girl, or whatever.

And, what has come out of this auspicious, long-calling change of habit?

First and foremost, constant temptation to download that glittery, candy-alike instagram.

Secondly, which was obvious to me — i.e.,Munching of Twitter sky-rocketed. I believe maybe it’s a spill-over phenomena. Well, for sure, I need to build a floodgate around my pacifying smartphone-use and instead try to squeeze more juice out of the free hours I’m getting.

I have been watching more chess-videos. For some reason that I can’t explain but myan, I’m hooked on this beautiful game for no obvious reason.

I’m back in the form — devouring as much organic information as I possibly can; as I’ve started to listen to more podcasts all the way to the end. One podcast in particular I enjoyed the most this week was The Joe Rogan Experience #1921 – Peter Zeihan.

I and solution both contradicted Covid. It’s still a mystery who’s the carrier but does it matter? No. What matters? Solution these days is laughing her ass out on my jokes. Precious, priceless times aé!

Furthermore, thanks to Aanchal (one of Solution’s best friends) who introduced me to the song I would want to die with, when I eventually die, of course. This song, the one that came with this post magically calms me down and lulls me to sleep. Beautiful stuff!

And, on the last note, here’s also my bonus playlist.

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Something i want to leave you with today.

An inquiry to self.

Are you honestly living the best version of the life you … possibly, possibly can? could’ve?

Does not necessarily have to be on the silk side of the happy case scenario! That means, if you’re suffering; if you’re going through the tough waves; if you’re going through the rough roller-costers of chaos; if you’re going through the grief and the pain of immeasurable magnitude; if you’re going through the alarming sense of emptiness, loneliness, meaninglessness. Then, suffer with Pride and Dignity! A capital ‘P’ and the capital ‘D’

However, only for the things that’s worth every dime of your energy or whatever you call it because i tell you it’s tempting to suffer for the foolish of reasons.

Hmmm… sure, I myself ask that question every-time I can, that If I’m honestly living the best version of the life i possibly.. ..possibly can. It sort of has become one of those compass I use to navigate through these unknown shit-tons of waters around my own lifeline. While most of the times the answer is ‘Oh! f*ck*ng Yes!’; many-of-times the answer has been ‘no’.

No lies.

And, it’s at this moment I know I need to slow down,

re-calibrate my position in the ground of my life’s roots (values per se),

be gentle and kind to myself,

breathe with grace and intent, and

move .. move nevertheless! Slowly!

Namaste.

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“Happiness is simply the absence of desire… Happiness is not about the achievement of pleasure (which is joy or satisfaction), but about the lack of desire. It arrives when you have no urge to feel differently. Happiness is the state you enter when you no longer want to change your state.”

James Clear (author of Best Seller Atomic Habits)

It has been a year.

I had been happy.

It’s time I come out of this Pandora bubble.

Sure, it’s charming and comfortable.

Sure, it’s shallow and deceiving.

Like they say, there’s cost associated with everything,

happiness also has a price.

It’s time I return to the root.

Damp. Dark. Disgusting. Dangerous.

For, happiness isn’t promised to anyone.

For, happiness doesn’t promise eternality.

Muddle through!

Let that sink in.

Namaste.

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External things are not the problem. It’s your assessment of them. Which you can erase right now.

Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

Off of many things I’ve learned from my mentors, one lesson they all re-iterate over and over again is to never give a thing about —

how people look at you, Good. Bad. Doesn’t matter.

how people have their point-of-view over you,

how people perceive your life choices and decisions,

how people frame you, or worst — want you to fit in their pseudo-made-up-perfect mould,

In less word possible, they say, Give no fu*ks about others’ f*ckeries.

Other’s got their own wastes;

Other’s got their own insecurities;

Other’s got their own story, their own narrative of other’s stories.

For as long as your ego hasn’t gotten the best of you;

For as long as you’re not heedless and that ephemeral, non-existent pride is not up in your arse;

For as long as you’re not damaging anybody — physically, mentally, spiritually;

For as long as you’re not stepping up on somebody else’s lawn;

In less word possible, you should be fine; You are fine!

Namaste.

p.s. for the record MIU published this small newsletter on me this november. Thanks to Solution for the lead!

p.s.s. Practicing — not being afraid.

Bijay Shrestha: Realizing His IT and Personal Potential

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