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Monica & Bishow Weds

Published February 5, 2026 By Bijay Shrestha

Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get- only with what you are expecting to give-
which is everything.
KATHARINE HEPBURN

Sweet Heat Lightning – Gregory Alan Isakov

Feb 5, 2026, 3AM.

It was about time.

Finally, a decade-old, mostly long-distance relationship between the two received its long-awaited seal of approval from the elders—in red tika, flowers, diyos, prayers, and blessings.

Priest reciting sacred verses.

Groom, Bride, both visibly cautions to follow through the instructions.

Attendees few excited and hooked; plenty at the verge of sleep, barely awake.

I, awake, present, absolute — feeling grateful to be part of the marriage matrix.

Groom, my twin brother, the man of the hour dressed in a sharp, double-breasted navy blue suit with subtle white pinstripes, fastened with two buttons for a classic, sophisticated look. Nonetheless, he is visibly nervous, meticulous and vigilant — all while wanting to make sure he is at his best self.

The bride, a radiant counterpart and the heart of the ceremony—dressed in traditional Nepali Hindu bridal attire: a rich red saree, brocaded with intricate gold embroidery and floral motifs; gold jewelry adorning her from head to toe, evidently representing strength, passion, and her goddess-like status. Fresh mehndi on her hands, duly inviting good fortune and warding off evil spirits. Shyness palpable. Attentive, serene, perhaps exhausted —calm outside, but more so

quietly “on fire” inside.

All the attention there is to, there can be— Is on the red-and-blue couple seated at the center corner of the hall.

They seemed happy, albeit eager to just get it over with.

Closeness is the craving.

The rest? Mere formalities.

So beautiful – the whole thing.

Peaceful – the vibe.

Heart warming – the look in the eyes.

Two ‘in-love’ souls.

One ‘for-life’ goal.

Monica.

Bishow.

Weds.

Namaste.

Solution Day, 2025

Published December 4, 2025 By Bijay Shrestha

There is only one happiness in life — to love and be loved.

George Sand

^{Basanta – Sajjan Raj Vaidhya}

Happy Birthday L❤️VE!

So many beautiful things have happened in the year since your last birthday of 2024, isn’t it?

Feb 14, 2025 happened.

April 30, 2025 happened.

and, I finally get to call you my ‘Wife‘.

April 30, 2025 – Engagement Shoot by *sophiejeannephotography*

Today, being the ultimate Solution Day, 2025 — I can’t believe you’re stepping into your third decade on this planet! 🦖

This day isn’t just special because it’s your birthday — it’s the day that reminds me how endlessly lucky I am to have you in my life,

– to have you as my guiding light,

– to have you as my reliable compass — keeping me in check, encouraging me, pushing me, believing in me, and fighting the fight with me,

– to have you as my mentor — inspiring me to go beyond and giving everything to bring out the best in me,

– to have you as my friend — offering me a shoulder to lean on, a hand to hold, a laugh when life gets heavy, and unwavering companionship through every high and low,

– to have you as my shield — someone I can truly trust my life with, my protector, my safe haven, the one who stands beside me through storms and sunshine alike, holding us both steady.

– to have you as my home to return to!

Without any doubt,

Solution Day — will always be close to my heart, until my very last breath.

Solution Day — is my reminder of how lucky I am, not just to love you, not just to cherish and create moments with you, but to witness your light in the world… in my world! It’s the day I celebrate you, the love of my life, the reason why every ordinary day feels extraordinary.

Lastly, just in case no one has told you lately:

I am also so freaking proud of you:

– for the life you have created,

– for the battles you have been braving,

– for the unsung battles you have been winning,

– for the grace you bring into this world.

– for the light you are!

Many, many Happy returns of the day again, Love.

Namaste.

P.S. for a quick flashback: here are all the birthday post I’ve written over the years we have been in relationship.

2024:https://musicpervs.com/2024/12/05/december-5-2/
2023: https://musicpervs.com/2023/12/05/solution-day/
2022: https://musicpervs.com/2022/12/05/solution-is-27/
2021: https://musicpervs.com/2021/12/05/december-5-2021/
2020: https://musicpervs.com/2020/12/04/25th/
2019: https://bijays.com.np/musicpervs/2019/12/05/december-5/

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Alone

Published February 29, 2024 By Sabi Shrestha

You are enough.
~ Musicpervs

^{Slowed down Songs – Lost Dreams}

I am not afraid to be alone anymore.

I came to a party called ‘Life’ — alone. I’ve made peace with the thought that I would leave from here — a.l.o.n.e.

Despite…

Dear Haters, don’t fool yourself into believing that I will be a leftover of this party. Do not presuppose I’ll be alone on my own

only because you have seen me eat at restaurants — alone;

only because you have eyeballed as I cried over my griefs, my sorrows — alone;

only because you’ve heard me celebrate my tidbits of happiness — alone.

My adaptation with lonesomeness. Don’t mistake it for my weakness.

Matter of fact, to be able to befriend lonesomeness and continue the stride forward is my lethal weapon that I’ve wielded over time and tides; It is why I’ve thick skin on me — mostly from the scars you people left with your disgusting, unforgiving, sinful claws.

Matter of fact, I survived from the worst of situations and fought a lone-wolf battle in the skulk of foxes.

All thanks to you, I am able to take a stand for myself.

Thanks to you for the deliberate isolation you perpetrated.

Thanks to you for a peaceful solitude you’ve bestowed me with.

It gave me fuel and the fire.

It gave me purpose.

It gave me clarity.

It gave me courage.

It gave me authenticity.

It gave me, …me.

Little lighter, little wiser.

Namaste.

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Little Did I know

Published March 23, 2023 By 8ijay.shrestha

There are no cheatsheets to live a successful, happy, merry life. Life’s grind. ~ author

^{Jeremy Zucker – Cry with you}

Yesterday it was my 5th interview for Bank of America, Charlotte, NC. Tomorrow we’ve one more scheduled for 2pm EST. It’s been precisely 5 months and 2 weeks since I started working for the bank as an Application Architect. However, little did I know, from the month of February, 2023, I would already start taking interviews for the new candidates across the bank’s many software development teams. Little did I know, from the 1st week of March, 2023, I would be an On-shore Dev Lead for an agile team I currently work at.

On one hand, It’s humbling to have trust of my manager, as well as the leads from other agile teams in the bank who’re also amongst the interviewers panel. While on the other hand, I’m also on perpetual spotlight; Where my actions, in-actions, my ways of communicating, deliberate listening, my ways of shaping the interview, my questions, my answers, every words I utter, words that I don’t, … generally my character as a whole is nakedly microscoped by the age-old, white-haired, wise and experienced employee of this giga-normous bank!

Side note: As of today, Bank of America provides service to it's clients from around 35 different countries with over 200,000 employees.

Little did I know I’ll have too much too soon on my vanilla, clean, scared plate.

Lastly, from someone who has taken 100s of interviews back home and already did plenty here, few takeaways for the prospective interviewee, plus a note to myself as well:

Caution: This is not The Template; it's merely just one of many templates that works for me -- specially for technical/ coding interviews:

Don’t ignore non-behavioral questions. Too much talking is a bad sign. Not talking enough is also a turnoff. There has to be a right balance between the two. Qualities such as authenticity, confidence, preparedness or lack there-off always find ways to crack open if there’re any ingrained in the candidate on the table .
It’s always a good thing to dress well for the interview. Amplifies seriousness because the alternative genuinely sucks.
Can’t stress enough,”Be prepared” for the interview (Practice. Practice. Practice). Do not try your LUCK. Do not expect an easy way in.
Ask as many questions before diving into the solution to the coding problems.
Explain how you intend to solve the problem before even writing a single piece of code.
Write.Your.Code!
Show utter enthusiasm throughout the period of interview (this has to be driven by homework of healthy preparedness), and not to miss if you may give signs of willingness to grow at par.
One last thing i liked: If you’re unable to solve the coding challenge problem, tell the interviewers that you’ll get back to them with the solution. And, actually find ways to do it.

Namaste.

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She is my Her

Published March 4, 2021 By Bijay Shrestha

Bro, don’t lose her. ~ Musicpervs.

^{Musicpervs March 2021}

Few housekeeping from last week:

I was close to losing a ‘Memento Mori’ medallion. In fact I had already given up the hope of finding it but as it turns out it found me. Again!

I almost passed out at my workplace. Reason: unknown. Prospective suspects: Might be because of exhaustion. Might be the stress. Might be because of poor eating habits. Might be because of lack of sleep.

New book on my wishlist: The Beginning of Infinity by David Deutsch.

Looping podcast:

Finding happiness amid the ordinary collisions of life. Link here.
Robert Greene on How Lack of Emotional Control Will Ruin You | Conversations with To‪m. Link here.

Books I’m reading:

Apparently shuffling between 12 Rules of Life by Jordan B Peterson. The obstacle is the way by Ryan Holiday and Atomic Habits by James Clear.

Heart melting and thought provoking web-series ( that I’m currently watching with my girlfriend):

Please find attached. Link here.

Favorite quote for the week:

Neil Strauss, “When cleaning a room, it often gets messy before it gets orderly. The same is often true for cleaning your mind. So be patient and persevere with your own journey. “The only way out is through”.

Question I’m pondering over:

What do I actually want?

I’ve admitted this for I can’t recall how many times but for sure — she’s my Her — that I had forever been searching for.

No lies. She makes me feel like I’m the start and I’m the end of her.

No lies: It’s all about, all the love and all the feels and all these ephemeral precious moments we expend together.

I only wish I can reciprocate a fraction of what she does for me.

For, she has never failed to amaze me with her pure love and grace.

For, she has always been there for me even when I’m not with myself.

Hands-down. She is my Her.

She’s my prayer.

Namaste.

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25th

Published December 4, 2020 By Bijay Shrestha

“Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get — only with what you are expecting to give — which is everything.”
~ Katharine Hepburn in Me : Stories of My Life:

^{Anuv Jain – MISHRI (Studio)}

To my b u f iiiiii,

With you,

everyday is a prayer.

everyday is a blessing.

Happy 19th Mangsir for your 25th.

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The One

Published November 12, 2020 By Bijay Shrestha

Genuine Friends Don’t Keep Scorecards
~ Marcus Aurelius

^{Prateek Kuhad – did you/fall apart}

I was once unsure if anybody would like me, let alone fall in love with me. or accept me for who I was. I use to feel ugly, lacking, and … fucked gorgeously!

That’s my story when i was in my 10th, 11th, 12th all the way to the 2nd year of my undergraduate degree at Islington. But after that, something organically changed.

Long story short, I clearly remember that this holy ramification in my mindset over my own identity came about only after I met my best friend. Manish — a sweetheart of Tangal, Patan.

As, someone wise, unbeknownst once said, all you need to get through all the shitloads of thick-and-thins in life — is just one person.

Fuck,

He is the one in my life!

He taught me to take care of my own shit. Embarrassing and Inflammatory as it may sound but he honestly did teach me to dress up, taught me to talk to seniors or even the girls; For simplicity sake, let’s just say that HE’s the one who had me Man Up!

Above all, he also (without-him-knowing) taught me an important lesson for life, and, i.e, — to Love Myself!

YES

L.O.V.E

Y.O.U.R.S.E.L.F!

He’s a forever — Brother! Friend!

November 3

Published November 3, 2020 By Bijay Shrestha

“Hurry up and live.”
~ Seneca

Kasoor – Prateek Kuhad

Another November 3.

2019.

2018

2017

A note to myself.

As you age, weight of responsibilities gets broader and deeper. The answer is Jordan Peterson. Embrace!

As you age, the world will reveal itself as more free, more mad, less obvious and less real. Pull Tim Ferris. Sam Harris. Derek Sivers. Paul Graham. Tim Urban. Cal Newport. Change with time but be mindful!

As you age, the mountains trail to whatever you want to triumph become brutally rough and imperative. As Ryan Holiday beautifully put it, “The obstacle is the way.” Pick your mountain!

As you age, resistance, comfort and distractions look out for you to ease, grease and befriend you. Remember Steven Pressfield. Be aware!

But as you age, you’re more in control of your own life; in control of your — small, big, naive and important choices. James Clear is there to point you to the right direction. Merely, know your weaknesses! Work on them.

Like Paul Swanson — Contemplate!

You’re growing. Soar!

You’re aging. Age gracefully!

Happy November to us brother!

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I pray

Published January 5, 2020 By Bijay Shrestha

Harrison Storm – Feeling You

She confronts, she wants to die only after I pass away because I’m a mess without her. Rightly so!

I can’t imagine a day of my life without her.

I couldn’t be more happy we had that piece of conversation among many others things. Over texts though!

But, I hope this genuine feeling we have in our hearts means at least something or better yet Everything with capital ‘E’ for both of us — throughout our lives.

Enough!

For our best of times.

In crushing days.

During countless ordinaries we’re to walk together.

I pray!

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