What do you do when you get married? You take someone who’s just as useless and horrible as you are, and then you shackle yourself to them.
Jordan B. Peterson
“Marriage is not — a contract. Marriage is not — abiding by my some protocols or laws or rules. Fulfilling relationship or marriage is at least not about — saying, If you have this, this, this quality, or If you do this, that, this stuff, or even faintly borrowing the belief that your partner has to be exactly like that ‘kind of person’ (a metaphorical template in your head) or that your partner can’t be flawed.. That’s not marriage and that barely looks like a joyful relationship. It’s a disaster.
More so often, we tend to believe that successful marriages are ones where we are comfortable all the times. No! Matter of fact, borrowing it from Jordan B. Peterson, he says,
“…successful relationships are all about creating a space where the boundaries are clearly defined, and each partner can trust the other to be completely open about their thoughts, feelings, and experiences.”
Marriage, is trust.
Marriage is a commitment to not lie, no matter how acidic it is.
Marriage is not hiding a.n.y.t.h.i.n.g in the fog.
Marriage is genuine respect.
Marriage is building each other.
Marriage is supporting one another.
Marriage is acknowledging the dispute and trying best to resolve them with grace and openness.
Marriage is equal partnership. 100% his, and 100% yours! [Yes, she shared me this link,, and it makes total sense.]
Marriage is absolute transparency.
Marriage is a reliable, comfortable couch.
Marriage is freedom! Freedom to seek freedom. Freedom to ask for freedom. Freedom to be free. Freedom to be ‘you’ without judgement, without-a-question!
Marriage is so many things, but there are thing that sits at the core (for me personally),
— it’s respectful communication
— it’s friendship
— it’s ‘having a good senses of humor’.
— it’s a pure vow to remain a team!
Namaste.
p.s. Bonus song here.