In the early 2015, I’d read a classic, deep-shit by one of my mentor, Dr. Friedrich Nietzsche, who was also a very hard-core german philosopher by profession.
In his book, Human, All Too Human: A Book for Free Spirits, he’d instructeded,
It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.
I remember, as soon as i read that hot, sexy, steaming line in the book; it was nothing short of Holy fuck! moment on me.
Because, that was it! That was fucking it! — the true skin, flesh and bones of a very successful failed relationship was all naked there!
Since then, I’ve been measuring my own romanticism’s depth and breadth from this dependable compass long offered to us by Mr. Nietzsche for fucking free.
p.s. ensues the feels of writing “3AM friend.“ .
Okay, so, let’s put your love into test through the same microscope.
Shall we?
Let’s begin.
A simple inquiry or self-reflection will do. That, with your partner, are you fucking sure that you guys are THE best of friends?
[pause]
[think]
[connect the dots]
[you’re good at making patterns by evolution — fucking make one here real quick]
[still thinking]
[still reading]
[think] ….
Now, if your answer is ‘No’
Fucking leave pal, before it’s too late.
Bonus: if you want to dig in a little bit more as to why I say that (in a heartbeat); read this article by one of my mentor Mr. James Clear ( the author of Atomic Habits)
Contrarily, if your reaction to that same question is
‘Hell! FooooooOking Yeah’ << [click that link]
Then, you’re without-a-shred-of doubt, one hell of a fortunate big time cracker!
Again, if you don’t buy my view on the matter, here’s the world’s oldest longitudinal study done on happiness at Harvard, backing up that claim.
To the nutshell, I’d request you all to make fucking sure that you’ve all the ingredients of full moon friendship before you would decide to put an end to your fuckaround-behavior, and actually marry your dream partner in crime.
Virtues like :-
Honesty.
Trust.
Respect.
Humility.
Understanding.
Support.
Unconditional love.
Kindness.
Care.
Warmth! Friendship! Friendship!
And, most certainly, (a not to miss)
A Holy Fucking humor.
Yes, make sure you tick all those boxes before deciding to fire your fucking shuttle ae’!
Good luck!
Nites!!
✌️& ❤️